Recently I took these 2 for a full day of fun at Six Flags Over Texas.
The rest of my 8 children stayed home.
It wasn't a special occasion. And the other 6 kids didn't whine or question me about why I wasn't taking everyone.
Here is the WHY and HOW of what I do.
Why I Make Sure Things Aren't Fair For My Kids
- I want my children to have time with me when they aren't with all the other siblings.
- I want my children to know that sometimes it is their turn to get special attention and sometimes it is someone else's turn.
- I want my children to understand that every single situation in life will not always work in their favor.
- I want my children to practice postponing gratification.
- I want my children to practice being happy when others are the center of attention.
How I Make Sure Things Aren't Fair For My Kids
- When it is a child's birthday month and half-birthday month, he or she gets a special day with Mom. One sibling may be invited if the birthday child chooses. The birthday child may choose up to 3 activities (within reason) for our special day.
- Occasionally when the whole family is out, I may buy one child new shoes, or a new backpack, or another needed item.
- I take a different child with me each time I go on errands.
Do your children understand and accept that sometimes things aren't "fair"? You will be doing them (and their future families) a huge favor if they come to grips with this before adulthood!
See also my thoughts on "10 Signs Your Child Might Be Spoiled And What To Do About It."