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Reestablishing Good Habits

For almost 20 years, we have had a daily nap time at our house. This was a hard and fast rule. No negotiating. For one hour each day, rain or shine, everyone was to go to a quiet place for a nap or quiet contemplation for the older set.

Did you notice I use the past tense in that last sentence?

When we had a major construction project going on at our house a little over a year ago, there was sawing and hammering going on while construction workers shouted to one another over the music blaring from their boom box. (I'll never forget the day the kids learned the words to "Black Betty." Good times.) One end of our house was completely open to the elements for weeks, except for a piece of black plastic sheeting stapled to the ceiling and walls.

That's when our almost 20 year habit of nap time flew out the window. Or out the open end of our house. Whatever. Nap time was gone.

So, you can imagine the resistance I received recently from my 3 year old when I tried to reestablish our old nap time routine. She revolted! She could not even remember the time when this was a routine. Or even a one time event.

I explained to everyone that we were starting our daily nap or quiet contemplation routine again. Everyone would need to find a book, a notebook, and a pencil and go to a solitary place for one hour. They would know when the hour was up when the music stopped.

Everyone complied. Except the 3 year old. She cried, fussed, and/or screamed for the entire hour.

Fortunately for me and unfortunately for her, I am more determined than she is, so she stayed in her bed for the duration. I can't say it was altogether restful or relaxing for me, but I have set my mind to reestablishing this good habit.

Past experience tells me that she may very well keep up her resistance for a few days, but if I stand firm, all will be peaceful soon.

Moms, if you have let a good habit fall by the wayside, there's no time like today to reestablish it. Here are a few tips for doing that.

  • Explain to the family that everyone is going to be doing (_fill in the blank_) again.
  • Remind them of the procedures for above routine.
  • Don't be taken by surprise by resistance.
  • Establish consequences for disobedience.
  • Stand firm in your expectations.
  • Keep up the routine, regardless of resistance.

Now, go reestablish a good habit today!

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  1. Sounds good to me at first, but my kids (ages 18 months – 17 years) are up and awake until 10pm or later. Only the baby takes a nap (around 4pm or so) I’d hate to imagine how late we’d be up if they had a nap time during the day. Yikes!

    • She didn’t say everyone napped, but everyone had to be quiet. I’m trying to figure out how to make this work myself. Our toddler usually can’t make it to lunch without a nap (when he is forced to by circumstances, like a shopping trip, he becomes a terror). But a daily quiet time with no noise and kids either napping or quietly occupied reading or writing or drawing would be lovely! I think that’s what Connie is talking about.

  2. We ( taking liberties with the word we) love our naptime. I still make our 4 1/2 yo twins and 5 1/2 yo nap. The 5 yo still naps and the twins don’t really but they don’t play quietly either so laying down is the only option for them to keep up my sanity hour routine. And the twins I have in separate rooms for nap bc mayhem ensues if they nap together which is not restful at all. Our 6 1/2 year old plays quietly in her room. She is great at not coming out and disturbing me so she isn’t required to stay on her bed.

  3. Ahhh, quiet time. I love when we do quiet time! Lately we haven’t been. We have commitments in the afternoon. I’m thinking we need to get back to it on the days we are home after lunch. It’s always so nice to have an hour where I can focus on my work. Makes for a happy Mama. :)

  4. This is exactly what I need to re-implement in my home. I just had a baby and a deployment is coming up very soon, and Mom is going to need a little time each afternoon to survive the upcoming months! Thanks for the perfect timing of your post; it is a great encouragement to me to redo my schedule and put quiet time in there!

  5. Thank you for posting about this! Your original post was what gave me the courage to soldier on with quiet time here, and it is a life-saver. It’s not exaggerating to say that it’s our life line here. By the time lunch is over, every one here is good and cranky and ready for a break. Quiet time is our reset button! After that sacred ONE HOUR in which everyone has to either sleep or read, we’re all ready for the rest of the day. It’s such a blessing. Keep on keepin’ on!