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Wholesome Talk Check-In

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

When I decided to take the 30 Day Wholesome Talk Challenge, based on Ephesians 4:29, I knew it would be, well, challenging. What I didn't realize was that it would be so difficult, so downright painful!

Yes, it is painful to realize how many times I am tempted to say things, and sometimes actually do say things that are not helpful, needful, or beneficial.

I am beginning to realize that it isn't enough to simply keep the words from coming out. I need to change my thoughts, as well.

Challenging. Difficult. Painful.

But I can feel myself slowly being changed. Changed into a more thoughtful speaker, more deliberate with my words.

Now, to work on my thoughts following.

How are you doing with the 30 Day Wholesome Talk Challenge?

Link up your post below telling us how it's going for you. Let's all encourage one another!

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  1. I haven’t been doing a great job. Trying harder this week.

  2. I was just thinking of you today………..wondering how everyone was doing,….

    ….did I mention that what made me think of you all was that I was gritting my teeth while trying to respond in a kind, patient, and encouraging way? :o\ Oh my!

    This challenge has been hard work and I go to bed thinking and re-thinking about how I handled things throughout the day and how I’ll handle them the next.

    My children have been helpful and are working on this challenge with me….is their sweat on your brow too?! *Definitely seeing progress and finding myself in the word more often,……THANK YOU FOR THIS CHALLENGE!! :O)

  3. Honestly I haven’t tried. At all. I felt like I should join in when you first posted, but really just didn’t feel like I could do it. Not to say that I’ve been trying to say things that aren’t helpful, needful or beneficial, but I haven’t been holding my tongue like I would be if I had “joined in”. I’ve been convicted of this soooo many times, but honestly just don’t know where to start…I feel as though my temper is so short with my children and correcting them too harshly instead of in love, constantly using sarcasm, and definitely asking questions in order to blame….
    OH I guess I am trying, but not like I could be. I recently went through a study of the book James too….man was that convicting. I need some practical tips for holding my tongue. It is good to hear that those who “seem” to have it together more than I do (I won’t say “have it all together!”) are struggling with this enough to challenge themselves.
    Keep commenting and encouraging…I need to read more.

  4. How do you correct your children while only saying what is needful, helpful and beneficial? What do you say instead of “WHO DID THIS?” Or “Why did you do that?” or “Haven’t I told you a million times….”….

    • Smockity Frocks says:

      I walked into the kitchen the other day and found a HUGE mountain of peanut butter on the floor. True story. I immediately said, “WHY is there peanut butter on the floor???” Then, I took a deep breath and said, “Never mind. That doesn’t matter. Whoever spilled this peanut butter needs to come here right now and clean it up.”

      I think there are times it is needful and beneficial to say, “Stop doing that. It’s rude.” or “I don’t want to hear any more arguing.”

      I don’t think this challenge means never saying anything *unpleasant*. Sometimes needful and beneficial things are unpleasant.

  5. The first week and a half we were really good at keeping each other accountable. The kiddos even took to wearing rubber bands so when they slipped up, they could “remind” themselves not to speak unhelpful, needless, or unbeneficial words.

    We’ve all been working on memorizing Ephesians 4:29.

    It has been really surprising to me how many times needless words come out of my mouth. Things that just don’t need to be said. Many of these things begin with the word “why.” And not just “why….” more like “WHYYYY….”


    Quite honestly, this week has been….yeah. I haven’t even thought about the challenge. I am so glad Connie asked how things were going, because I needed the reminder :)

  6. This challenge has been a true Reality Check for me, especially in their area of how I talk with my teenagers!

    LORD, cleanse me and heal my heart so that I can speak truth and life to YOUR children.