What's the big deal about Young Living

Spending Time With Mentors

I have lots of friends that I love to spend time with for different reasons.

Some friends crack me up. Some challenge my thinking. Some help me get organized. Some friends laugh at all my stories. Some friends, who have been friends since first grade, know all my stories and laugh anyway.

But then those rare, seasoned friends that I make sure to bring my note pad and pen when we get together.

Cause I'm in the Dork Club.

Not an empty note pad, either. A note pad that I have written numbered questions on in advance, so I can pick their brains on various topics.

Cause I'm not only a member of the Dork Club. I'm the president.

Seriously, though, if you are like me, you have often wished you had a mentor whose grown children

  • are responsible citizens
  • faithful Christians
  • still like their parents
  • and siblings
  • don't pick their boogers in public
  • have never had a parole officer

It's a lot to ask, I know. And they aren't that easy to find, either. Have you looked around?!

So, when I get to spend time with one of my friends I consider a mentor, I show up prepared!

I was thrilled to recently have lunch ALL ALONE with one of my sweet friends who meets all the above criteria! We ate together and talked and talked and talked. I was practically giddy to have her all to myself, and she didn't even laugh at my note pad!

My friend, Penny, has graduated 6 homeschooled children, and look at her! She hardly drools at all when she walks! She's my hero!

If you have been yearning for someone who has traveled farther down the parenting road than you have, someone to help you with hard questions, don't be afraid to just ask a more experience mother some of those questions! It may very well be that they would be thrilled to encourage you and share what they have learned with an eager listener.

If you don't see anyone around you who you would consider a mentor, keep looking. Look harder. Is there a woman who has older children than yours? Do her children cherish and respect her? Have they been taught to be faithful Christians? Do they enjoy the company of their siblings? Do they look for opportunities to serve and share the love of Christ?

That woman can be a mentor to you! Just because she doesn't formally teach a weekly class entitled, "What I Can Teach Younger Women" doesn't mean she isn't willing to teach you what she knows.

Get to know her. Invite her over. Stand near her and listen in when she interacts with her older children. Don't be afraid to be a stalker! (I'm kidding on that last one...)

And when she shares her wisdom with you, take notes!

They can be mental notes if you aren't ready to officially join the Dork Club.

"Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored." (Titus 2:3-5)


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  1. Thanks so much for this, Connie. Sometimes I think we slip into “Lowest Common Denominator Mothering” and make ourselves feel better by thinking, “Well, at least, I’m not as bad as her!”

    But that’s certainly not what God has called us to and I’m so thankful for Godly role models in my life (including a mom and mom-in-law) who have much spiritual wisdom to impart – both through word and example.

    Notebook in hand — great idea!

  2. Katena Dyser says:

    I had a wonderful whom name was Patricia. She taught me several things her children where older. My 4th son was always a little different she gently told me this. I was so glad someone else saw it other than me. She guided me into what o do and was a great help. She is no longer in my life because of the army; but what she taught me I will be able to use it for a long time. Woman in general are natural teachers and leaders and I believe every person that comes into my life I learn from them.

  3. I’m not sure what we would do without our couple mentors. When we need advice or just someone to listen, they’re always there….everyone needs a mentor. It’s nice to be able to learn from someone who has already been there and knows the ropes. :-)

  4. Connie, I hope you know you already fill this void in many lives! :) *hugs*. Thank you for not being afraid to speak the truth over us.

  5. Connie, you and the other “4Moms” are definitely my mentors. You’ve all been so very helpful to me and I often take notes 😉 My oldest child will be 3 1/2 when we have our 4th baby in a few weeks, so at times I feel like I’m cramming for a test with all the information I need to absorb so quickly! But God is good and he doesn’t give us any more than we can handle. I find his provision and sustenance often works through the blog posts I’ve read from you ladies. I wish you all lived in my neighborhood so I could “borrow a cup of sugar” once in awhile and observe the mechanics of your family life a little more closely 😉

  6. Great post! I never had a mentor/older woman to turn to for wisdom. I always wanted it, but no one around. So sad.

    I just hope that through Christ I can be that for the younger women in my life, like my four daughters! Lisa~

  7. Nicole Fowler says:

    Connie, I second the remarks above about you! Thank you for sharing your wit, humorous and honesty with us! God has used you many a time to mentor and encourage me through your posts. I am also blessed by my mom friends as we go through the trenches of mommyhood together and of course my Mom and Mother-in-law who provide a faithful and loving example.

  8. Good on you for saying this. Mentoring is the modern PC term for discipleship, I think! Essential stuff!


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