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Human Beings Are So Disappointing

When important events occur in the big wide world, and especially when they occur in my little world, I have all these thoughts about those events bouncing around in my head, and sometimes those events that happen are so overwhelming that I can't put a stop to the bouncing thoughts.

And that's when they have to come out. Usually that happens at home, and my kids, who are the closest in proximity, get to hear all my lectures about how things ought to be and my pontifications about why things aren't always as they should be.

But when my kids have heard all my thoughts about a particular topic or when that topic is too heavy or mature for them to fully understand, then I turn to you people. You can see examples of those kinds of posts when I talked about the HPV immunization that I passed on for my teen daughter and sex education being discussed in Sunday school.

What I'm trying to say is ... Smockity's fixin' to get all preachy up in here, so buckle up.

And I am mainly getting preachy with myself, because I sometimes forget important lessons until I am jolted into remembering them once again.

So, today's lesson is People Will Disappoint You.

Seems simple enough, doesn't it? I hope you don't think it is pessimistic, because it isn't. It's realistic. Write it down. Put it in your wallet. You'll need to remember it soon enough. Like I did today.

You see, I'm a jolly, optimistic person, so I tend to think the very best of people. I give them the benefit of the doubt and assign them pure motives. You might say that I tend to put people on pedestals, and once they are there I expect a lot from them.

The problem with that is people are fallible. "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." (Romans 3:23) And I don't mean fallible like saying "dang", either. (Sorry if I just fell off your pedestal!) I mean big, whoppin', major league fallible.

Like King David. He took another man's wife, got her pregnant, and then had her husband killed to try to cover up his big, whoppin', major league sin.

David was hand picked by God to be king. He had faith enough to challenge a giant. He was called "a man after God's own heart", yet he made terrible choices more than once. In fact, judging from the way his children turned out, I have to wonder what kind of a father he was.

Pretty disappointing for such a man of God, I would say.

The thing is, when we think to ourselves, "My preacher/elder/mentor/Uncle Bob would NEVER __(fill in the blank)___", we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. Because they are mere people. And people sin. "If you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.” (Gen. 4:6-7)

And sure enough the day comes when the preacher/elder/mentor/Uncle Bob ___(fills in the blank)___. And if you're a pedestal putter upper, like me, you are shocked. Speechless. Struck dumb. You wonder, "What in THE WORLD is he thinking? Why? WHY would he do such a thing? How could he be so selfish and foolish?"

Because you have forgotten that people will disappoint you.

Therein is the reason Jesus came to seek and save the lost. We are the lost. All of us. We all have sinned and disappointed.

If there were one single person who would not disappoint, who would never sin, then there would be no need for Jesus' atoning blood.

Praise God for grace. Jesus saves. The good news is that every sinful act that disappoints has a chance to be a beautiful picture of redemption. Thank you, Jesus, and may it be so in this case.

Put your hope in the Lord. Trust in Him. He is the only One who will never disappoint.

My hope is built on nothing less
Than Jesus’ blood and righteousness.
I dare not trust the sweetest frame,
But wholly lean on Jesus’ Name.
On Christ the solid Rock I stand,
All other ground is sinking sand;
All other ground is sinking sand.

In Christ alone my hope is found,
He is my light, my strength, my song;
this Cornerstone, this solid Ground,
firm through the fiercest drought and storm.
What heights of love, what depths of peace,
when fears are stilled, when strivings cease!
My Comforter, my All in All,
here in the love of Christ I stand.

*Disclaimer: Chances are that if you are reading this, you have no idea the specific disappointment I am talking about. My family is fine. The congregation I attend is fine. I was deeply impacted and saddened today by the sin of a long time friend.

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  1. Tasmanian says:

    I’m encouraged by the way you surround yourself with words of truth (On Christ the Solid Rock I Stand.)

  2. Thank you for this reminder and encouragement. Like you, I tend to put people on pedestals and then expect a lot from them. I need to be reminded that people will fail us; they can’t help it because of their sin nature.

  3. Just had this discussion with a good friend of mine yesterday. She has done so much for people but now in her time of need no one is there for her. I am more than 3000 miles away but I sat and listened to her just talk. That all she needed yesterday was someone to listen too. I told her she puts too much stock in people. People will disappoint us and always will. I always look forward to your words of wisdom.

  4. What a wonderful post with perfect timing. I’ve been recently disappointed by someone in my life who is very close to me and I’ve been submitting it to prayer because unfortunately we don’t have control over what other people do.

    By the way, that’s one of my favorite songs!

  5. I know where you are at. I have had disappointment like that in the past, when people I looked up to and admired in a spiritual sense, as a teen, did something that hurt deeply.

    I also have been saddened by the actions of long-time friends. It’s tough.

    Cyber hugs from the UK.

  6. I love your flavor of faith, humor, and good sense.

  7. Yup! I totally agree with you here, as usual. The real kicker to me is that there is no difference to sin like we would see it. Jesus died for all sins, therefore they are all equal in God’s eyes. Ouch! Because I see murder as a much harder sin than lying or cussing. The point is, we have to forgive, no matter how bad we think the sin is, because we’ve probably done just as bad!

  8. “If there were one single person who would not disappoint, who would never sin, then there would be no need for Jesus’ atoning blood.”

    Yes, this. Thank you for the reminder. Now, I’m off to listen to News Boys’ version of In Christ Alone. I’ll probably turn it up really loud. I may sing and there may be tears.

  9. Tanya Shenk says:

    Good post. I have to admit though, as I was reading it, I was thinking less of people who have disappointed me and more of those whom I may have disappointed. That grieves me far more.

  10. It’s a timely reminder for us in the UK, where a very popular children’s TV presenter from my childhood, famous as a Catholic and charity fundraiser extraordinaire, who died last year, has just been revealed as an extremely predatory paedophile! It’s stunned a lot of us!

  11. Thank you. I have been struggling so much the past month with that news of a sin that a family member committed. This did my heart good :)
    Romans 5:8

  12. Amy Hunter says:

    Amen and Amen! Good Word Miss Connie

  13. Has your friend repented?

  14. Thank you….this is just what I needed. That is such a beautiful hymn and I am looking forward to having that hymn ready in my mind so I can sing it out loud or just to myself instead of fretting and worrying or being disappointed and getting down on life:)
    Thank you.

  15. Such a timely reminder of the need we all have for the grace of God, even on this side of salvation. In Christ alone, indeed. May He shed His love, grace and mercy and restoration upon the situation.

  16. I’m so grateful to serve a God who will never disappoint! He is today as He was yesterday and will be in the future!

    It is very difficult to watch someone you love walk away from the Lord and deeply into sin and deception; especially knowing that they will never listen to you or receive your warning. Husband and I are walking through this right now with regards to a very loved and deceived family member.

    I’ll be praying for you, and your response and ministry to your friend. Please, pray for us too!

    In Christ Alone,