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There Oughta Be a Law – The Rest of the Story

Part 1 here

*Disclaimer: I have lots of friends (Really! I'm freakishly popular!) who do not agree with every single one of the thoughts that come out of my noggin. Even my own husband sometimes has the nerve to disagree with me. But we can still be friends, mkay?  Warning to gentle readers: Shocking (rated G) language ahead!

After I printed out the return policy from Walmart's official website, I took it and the pajamas straight to the return desk the next time I went to the store.

As luck would have it, I ended up with the very same sales associate who told me that I wasn't allowed to get a gift card the first time. I cheerfully showed her the return policy and asked her if I might please speak to a manager about the return. She immediately obliged and a manager was there in no time.

He was a kind-looking grandfatherly type with an easy smile.

I explained to him about the pajamas having been purchased at the same store a week earlier and how I did not need anything from the little girls' department at the moment, and I showed him the printed return policy.

He told me that he could tell I was an honest person, but this time of year there were a lot of people exchanging items they received from charities for merchandise the charity did not intend. He said they were making exceptions to the holiday policy of no gift cards on a case by case basis, and he thought that it was okay for me to have a gift card.

He was so amiable about it that it was hard for me to wrap my mind around the fact that Walmart is making judgments, presumably on the way people look, as to whether or not they are deserving of receiving a gift card for a returned item.

He stood smiling at me and I stood blinking, speechless at him.

Finally, I asked, "Do you mean that people bring back items donated to their children and get beer and cigarettes instead?"

"Yes. Sadly, that's right."

"Look," I said, "I don't drink beer or smoke cigarettes..."

He patted my hand gently and said with a wink, "I know that. It's okay, honey. We're on the same page." He then told the associate to give me the gift card and wished me a Merry Christmas.

I returned the wish, but what he didn't know was that we weren't on the same page at all.

You see, I know first hand about people returning their children's gifts for different items.

When I taught second grade Bible class there was a sweet little girl who came regularly. She wore dirty, tattered clothes, and shoes that were too big with no socks.

When she mentioned to me that her birthday was the following week, I knew just what I wanted to do. I went to Walmart and bought her 2 new dresses, a package of panties, socks, tights, and some sparkly shoes in her size.

She was ecstatic when I gave everything to her the next Sunday! But the next time I saw her she was still wearing her worn, dirty clothes. When I asked her about her new clothes, she told me that her Daddy had returned them to Walmart because they needed other things.

I was very sad for her. I had long suspected that her father made many selfish, unwise decisions on her behalf. Knowing that my suspicions were correct made me determine that the next time I gave her a gift, I would make sure to remove all tags and personalize it by monogramming her initials.

What I did NOT determine was that there oughta be a law restricting him from doing selfish and unwise acts.

One of the concepts I have taught my 16 year old, newly driving daughter is to be aware that at any time there may be idiots and jerks around the next corner. Sure there are traffic laws designed to keep us all safe, but idiots and jerks don't care about the laws.

For instance, if you come to a 4 way stop ahead of another car, don't assume they will yield the right of way to you. Remember, they could be an idiot or a jerk and decide not to stop at all.

And guess what? Idiots and jerks can also be parents. And no amount of legislation will restrict them from being idiots and jerks.

I agree that it is cruel to a child to exchange a gift of pajamas for a 6 pack of beer. But I DISAGREE that there ought to be restrictions on what the rest of us can do because of what a few jerks might do.

A few people pointed out in the comments of part one of this story that any parent determined to exchange gifts can take them to a pawn shop, or sell them on Ebay or Craigslist. There are many ways for an idiot to be selfish and serve his own desires over his child's.

I am not mad at Walmart. I am not mad at the lady at the returns desk. I am not mad at the manager who instituted the "holiday exchange policy".

I AM deeply concerned when I hear over and over that there oughta be a law...

I read where people say, "THOSE people ought to not be allowed to have children." "THOSE people ought to not be allowed to have so many children." "THOSE people ought not to be allowed to homeschool." (with fingers pointing far off in the distance)

I hear people saying there oughta be laws restricting homeschooling, size of families, numbers of children sharing a bedroom, and more. We already see that a rogue judge has ruled that American citizens do not have a "fundamental right to produce or consume foods of their choice." Ummmm... does this pattern concern anyone else???

What's next? Outlawing beer and cigarettes altogether? Better include soda, Cheese Whiz, Happy Meals, and white bread in that list too, since they have no nutritional value and some idiot might feed them to their children day after day.

You might say that I'm a libertarian, but I'm worse than that. I'm a cynical libertarian. I believe that our individual liberties are slowly being stripped away because of over legislation.

Really, the bottom line is I am not too stupid to decide what is best for me. I don't need a committee or a judge to decide for me. I would like that LIBERTY to remain mine.

I believe that if YOU think it is a bad idea to exchange pajamas for beer, or have 19 children, or homeschool them all, by all means DON'T DO IT. That is your liberty.

But don't make restrictions on what I should do based on what you think is best.

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  1. I agree with you, Connie. On one hand, it is hard to not want to put a stop to such things, but every time we do, we only hurt many more innocent parents who truly DO care about their children.

    Have a blessed and Happy New Year!

  2. Finally….someone gets it…we don’t need a law for everything.

  3. A.MEN.
    *nodding head vigorously*
    (Some of my friends and family say I’m over-reacting, imagining things or becoming a conspiracy theorist. I AM NOT. All you have to do is start reading the news, looking around, and paying attention a little…)

  4. Are you sure you’re not a drinker?! jk, 😀
    I’m glad things went better for you this time. I disagree with the idea that “those people” would use eBay and Craigslist to sale their children’s items . . . that would require effort!! :\

  5. I agree that the government is getting too far into our personal business. And I’ve decided that the only answer is God. Until this country turns back to God we are doomed. It’s exhausting to fight so I pray that Jesus will return or our country will repent.

  6. Agree..no law!!!! That manager is correct there are people out there that exchange things for things that have no business being bought over what was returned, but there are also people out there who return those things for items that are truely needed..toilet paper, soap, blankets, medicine..it isn’t in his right to make that determination; nor anyone elses. I dont have to answer for their decisions so I sure don’t want a law that tells me how to make my own.

    • Thank you. Yours is the only comment I’ve read so far that touched on someone actually having a greater need that the item they received. It’s a point that *needs* to be recognized!

  7. It is sad that there are people like that out there, but once you give someone a gift or charity its out of your hands what they do with it. I worked at Walmart and experience lots of misuse of charity, government assistance etc, but people do have a right to do what they want with their stuff once its theirs even if we don’t agree with it.

  8. What concerns me is that I read through, I think, 30-something comments yesterday on your Part 1 article and no one had yet commented about parents who actually need something legitimate for the care of their family and return something to fill that need. Many people commented about alcohol and cigarettes. You touched on the little girl who had a need for clothes and that need should have been allowed to be met. However, if a child has clothes, even if they are torn, and the parents are honest (because I lot of parents in need are honest and not over-indulgent drinkers or smokers) but have a need to pay their electric bill or for gas for transportation or for school supplies or nutritious food, then I can totally see the importance of being able to return something for cash or card.

    I grew up in a family where my mom received assistance from charities. There are only so many pair of pajamas a kid needs, but the family needs to eat and kids need notebook paper for school. Granted, I didn’t have clothes or pajamas in excess; I didn’t have notebook paper, bras, underwear that fit, and I cannot tell you how many nights in a row we ate mac’n cheese and nothing else of any nutritional value with it. Had any of us kids received more than 1 pair of pajamas, we would probably have returned them for something else that would have been more needed. We were not fortunate enough to receive gifts in such abundance.

    I’m not going to go on and on because people will either get this point or not. You’ll (not you, Connie, specifically, but anyone reading the comments) either understand what I’m saying or live in denial and think that families like that don’t exist or that all parents who would return something of their child’s are wrong for doing so. There is a bigger picture than those who might abuse “the system” and putting the barriers in place to prevent that abuse have a bigger negative impact than positive.

    • Smockity Frocks says:

      I do get this, and I had planned to put a few examples of this idea in the post. It just got so long, that I ended up leaving it out, but you are right!

    • Smockity Frocks says:

      Wanted to add… I think this goes right with the idea that each parent should be left to decide what is best for their family.

    • I commented on the first post regarding the Wal Mart fiasco (OK, so that’s hyperbole), and stated that stores aren’t in business to be the morality police. Chick makes a good point, and, frankly, I don’t really care why someone wants to return something. The bottom line for a store is that if the merchandise is intact, the store will get their product back, and it can be sold. Instead, Wal Mart (and other stores) have become what the government has become, i.e., an intrusion into the daily lives of its customers/constituents. My husband and I used to joke around and say things like, “What’s next? Will the government begin to dictate what we can eat?” Now that looks like a redundant question. Under the guise of safety, we now have cameras on most streets, we have laws governing the most minute detail (light bulbs–really?!), and there are thousands of laws written every year infringing our personal freedoms. It’s a disgusting, revolting and downright scary proposition. And, God forbid that your teenage son plays a prank on someone…that’ll get you time (I don’t speak from experience, but all one needs do is to Google it and you can read it for yourself). But, I digress. I’m fired up. However, my feet are off my soapbox, and firmly planted on the floor again. Now it’s time to get those same feet on the platform of the dreaded treadmill…I’ve stalled along enough–ugh.

  9. I so agree with you. It drives me crazy that there are so many laws. In our city it’s against the law to park in your yard. Seriously, you must be parked on the driveway or you can get a ticket. Things like this are completely ridiculous. I also disagree with the law against talking on your cell phone while driving based on the fact that I can be much more distracted by my kids or the radio or something falling on the floor than by my cell phone. People (and the governments) need to stop making laws about everything and start minding their own business.

  10. I was just mentioning to my husband the other day that it should be my choice as a grown adult whether or not to wear my seatbelt. I think it’s great if laws are inforced to protect young children with rules like having to buckle up. However, with adults where is the line? Should there really be a law requiring things that are personal choice? Isn’t smoking and drinking just as dangerous? What about reading a book while walking? Sounds silly but it’s a real serious matter when state and federal laws play into our personal lives so closely. (please don’t comment about the fact that seatbelts save lives. I know this to be true and would choose to use my seatbelt on my own good judgement. I just don’t like things enforced upon me.)

    • This is one example I was hitting at in my comment (below, I guess I was typing when you submitted yours). I was thinking about this exact situation recently. See, part of me does say that no one should be able to tell me what to do. This was after going to the doctor for my husband and they asked how often he wears a seatbelt and I was wondering how on earth that relates to his current medical condition. Anyway, while part of me thinks that I should be allowed to do as I choose, if I get in an accident and am thrown out of the car, government paid emergency people will have to be called to hopefully save my life. So the government, and therefore the tax payers, does have an interest in me wearing my seatbelt. And I’d think we all agree that the government should have people to respond in emergencies, so we’re implicitly okay with that government interference, right? So this conversation is more a matter of degree, not a yes or no.

  11. I understand where the walmart people come from. You can not judge a book by the cover. I have been lucky enough to be blessed and have passed on blessings. Some arents just don’t care about their children. This would only punished the parents that are doing right by their children.

  12. Amen. Everyone should watch Atlas Shrugged (Part 1) or better yet, read the book. What we are hearing now of government regulations is not only maddening, but scary once you see it taken to its fullest conclusion in this book/movie. We should all be sounding off like you are here–we had better stand up and speak. I am incredulous that the father of the child you gifted those items too returned them all. When I was in grad school, I taught K4 at a church, this one little girl always came in with her diaper from the night before still on and hungry. Of course, I finally said something–still a bit timid at 23 years old. Broke my heart. No amount of regulations would “fix” her parents.

  13. I’ll preface this by saying I’m not trying to be argumentative per se, but this is a reflection of my own inner struggle with restrictive laws in general. The problem is that we all do want some law, and there are times we want the government to interfere on ‘liberty’ (just never in the areas we want our pet freedom, you know?). For example, I do believe there are times that the government should step in for cases of child abuse, but where each person might define abuse is different. Maybe someone doesn’t like the state mandating until what age a child has to be in a booster seat, but then we expect government paid emergency personnel to treat our children in an accident which might have caused less damage had they been in a booster. I’m not sure I’m being clear. I’m just saying that I’d love to say ‘yeah! Stay out of my free choices!’ but then, well, I want to make abortion illegal, and I think people who starve their children should have them taken away. So I don’t really know what to think. If we lived in a perfect world, we wouldn’t need government…but we don’t, so the real question is how much is right. Thoughts?

  14. I agree there are too many laws and policies but I’m all for this one at Wal-Mart. As I said before, where I worked in a public school, people would ask so many different agencies for “help” (with lists for items better than I could afford for my own kids) just so they could return it for their own personal wants. Sorry, but sometimes leaving it up to the parents to decide isn’t what is best for the child. Look at the news and you will see what a screwed up world this is with what people do to and around their kids. If you want to know what I think needs to change…it’s the welfare system. (time for me to upset people). If you are sitting on your tushie sucking up every free thing you can without making an effort, then you don’t deserve welfare, WIC, charities, etc. (I have a friend that is a single mom, works 2 jobs, & goes to college. She gets government help. I’m perfectly fine with that.) If you required these dead beats to find a job (it may be cleaning toilets or flipping burgers or digging ditches), then I’m certain we would have less need for all the nonsense laws we have now. Take away the “entitled” mindset and get back to the “work for what you have” mindset and the world will change. God never intended for us to be a country of lazy bums. We should earn our keep. And I’ll say it…Those people that sit on their tushies making kids so that they can get more money shouldn’t have that right. (One example of a family in my area: 6 kids, neither parent works although there is no reason they can’t – and they will flat out tell anyone it’s because government assistance is better than finding a job – they live in free housing, get all their food & basic needs free, free schooling, gifts at Christmas etc) This is why we as decent, law abiding, honest people have to deal with all the “unfair” policies to begin with.

  15. Connie,

    Thanks for being bold enough to speak out about liberty. It’s a controversial topic, for sure, and I’m grieved right now to see how quickly (and quietly) our rights are being stripped away from us. I’m still absolutely astounded at different laws that have been passed recently and so hoping and believing for a radical change in government that will take us off this socialist road and return us to our roots.

  16. Watch out world! Connie is fired up! You go girl!

    And BTW ~ since I too will have a driver next month, I’ll be passing your advice along. :)

  17. Oh, amen! I love the direction that this story took! We can’t legislate the stupid out of some people. They will make poor choices no matter how much we try to protect them with laws, rules and policies. I admire Walmart for trying, but it isn’t good business to inconvenience their regularly paying customers.

  18. Amen! I am so tired of being punished because of idiots! We recently lost our raw milk for a month because of bureaucratic nonsense, but no one closed down Mickey D’s. I am choosing to make healthier food choices for my family and people around me think I’m nuts. I don’t tell them how to eat, so I sure don’t think anyone else should be worried about me. Liberty is the best thing about this country, but I’m fearful that we are losing it…

  19. Erin Norris says:

    Finally someone gets it! While I want to personally tell people who would return their child’s toys for beer, I realize that things like that have to be allowed to go on so that we all may have freedom. If we start restricting the rights of others to be stupid those same laws will come back to haunt us. You rock Connie!

  20. Billy Martin says:


    Way to Go! I started to suggest that you run for office but then I quickly realized that is the problem. We already have too many people making laws. I think that if we just followed the Natural Laws of God found in His Word we would not need more laws made by men. The Wisdom of God has always been superior to our way of thinking.

  21. haha You got it!
    We live in Oklahoma where there are no rules concerning homeschooling . . . none. Some people, including family, wish there was a law regulating homeschooling because they do know of people that abuse that freedom, but my argument is that most people do not. For every family that just says they are homeschooling, there are probably 50 families that are doing an exceptional job at it. While I may not agree with everyone else’s use of their freedom, I’m so glad we live in a country where we have the freedom to disagree!

  22. I so agree! Great post! We just recently adopted a little girl, and you would not believe what we had to go through bring our daughter from Missouri to Kansas!! Our attorney said the extremely strick law is protect against forced child prostitution and stuff, but he has never seen it “catch” anyone and it only hinders the rest of us that are doing things right.

  23. Not only do we not need a *law*, I think it’s incredibly presumptuous for the Wal-Mart manager to decide that they can change policy just because they noticed some people exchanging for things they disapprove of. I’m pretty sure Wal-Mart corporate offices would frown upon this arbitrary changing of the rules.

  24. Sarah Avila says:

    Well put!! Couldn’t agree more!!!

  25. Dear Smockity,
    I’ve never commented on your blog before but I feel the need to clarify something here. I also agree that there should not be a law governing a store’s return policy…however what your entire blog is talking about is not a law. It is an independent business’s decision about what they choose to return. Walmart can make whatever rules it wants to and then you have the freedom to decide whether or not to continue shopping there. Since the corporate policy showed you were right, then I agree that you should be able to do what you did. However, I don’t believe the manager should have been making an exception for you just because you look like a moral person.

    • Smockity Frocks says:

      I do understand that businesses are free to decide upon their policies and that is not the same as restrictive legislation. I was using this story to reveal what I believe is becoming a common philosophy and that is: “People can not be trusted to make their own decisions. We must force them to do what WE think is best.”

      • Your post does not distinguish between actual laws and WalMart return policies. WalMart return policies have absolutely no bearing on your personal liberty. It’s your personal liberty not to shop there, and it’s their right to set their own return policies. Conflating something a store does with actual laws is very shallow.

  26. I totally agree with you. We don’t need the government controlling our lives. We just need personal responsibility and a return to living with decent values. We have way too many people living in our country with no moral compass at all.

    • Ahh- but that’s the point. “Some” (notice I said some) people do NOT have ‘personal responsiblity’ – they would rather place all responsiblility on other people (or the government) because it is easier – then “they” don’t have to think, or say, or – for that matter – do, anything – it’s always someone else’s fault or someone else’s responsibility – and then IF, or when, something bad happens, they don’t have to accept any of the responsibility for the choices they made – whether that be smoking or drinking or texting while driving. So, what is the answer? I have no idea – it certainly isn’t making laws that do nothing but encourage people to be irresponsible – but then again, sometimes someone (the government) has to protect people from themselves. For example, in Florida, it is not against the law to ride a motorcycle without a helmet (which in MHO is STUPID), but I don’t think it makes any sense. For example, say a person on a motorcycle gets in an accident, the chance of them having really serious injuries are more likely if they are not wearing a helmet – then who do you think will be paying for that PERSONAL choice that they made by paying higher insurance rates- YOU AND ME that’s who. Do you want to pay higher insurance premiums because that person had the personal choice NOT to wear a helmet on a motorcycle? I don’t, but I have to because of the way the “laws” are written in Florida. That is just an example of how someone’s personal choice can and do affect every one of us. Whether we think that it is a good idea that there are laws or not really is not the point – to me, it is how the laws are written or enforced that is the problem. Sometimes “the good of the many out weigh the good of the few” – thank you, Mr. Spock ( and yes, I know, Captain Kirk also said that “The good of the few out weigh the good of the many.” and sometimes it does – you just have to be careful how you apply both!) Okay, I’m off my soapbox now – sorry I got so carried away – but not ALL laws are bad – or we would be back in the Middle Ages!

  27. Oh, my reading your post was like a flashback to some of my conversations with hubby. I totally agree with you. What have these laws got us anyway? They only serve to make those people more creative in how they go about doing and getting what they want and making life extremally hard for the rest of us. How many times has “someone” deemed something perfectly safe for me or my children and later found out just the opposite. How is it perfectly okay for some “group” to make this mistake on my behalf or the behalf of my children, but it is not okay for me to make the decision and let it be my mistake?

  28. Sheila, Mom to Seven says:

    You’re voting for Ron Paul, aren’t you? (wink wink)
    Seriously, I’m totally with you!

  29. Thank you!!!! I so agree with you. I was just having this conversation yesterday. We no longer seem to be able to speak our view on topics without offending someone and having to apologize for it, also.

  30. Just wanted to let you know that I read your blog in my Google Reader account. Your listed under the category “Decorating”. For the most part I scroll down the posts in this category, ooh and aaahhhhh over all the pretty pictures, pin something I really like on Pinterest and move on. However, this post caught my attention and I am so glad that it did. What I want to say in reply to this post is…….Amen Sister!!!!!! I am sick of the same thing. I have been looking for strike anywhere matches over the last couple of weeks. Such a simple little thing. Guess what I found out……most places won’t carry them anymore, not to mention they are illegal in some states, because individuals who choose to produce meth use them frequently. Apparently this means we need to make them unavailable to everyone for fear that they might be using or producing meth. Give me a break!!!!!!!!

    Anyway, wonderful post, and I am so glad that you got your refund!

  31. I love you my new fellow cynical Libertarian friend. And the food thing REALLY gets my panties in a wad. The food supply is the thing that matters the MOST. Ugh! High five.

  32. AMEN!!!!!!! Is all I have to say! :)

  33. I found your blog sheerly by accident (or happy fate?) the other night, and all I can say is: I am right there with ya! It’s way too easy to slip into the mindset that “SOMEBODY” ought to do something….meaning somebody ELSE. And unfortunately we all know that usually ends up being The Government. I can state pretty emphatically that I don’t need any more laws in MY life, thankyouverymuch!

  34. AMEN!

  35. Its like the “spanking” argument and gun control.

    There seems to be people out there who think spanking is abuse. Its not. When done properly, lovingly, not in anger. And any law forbidding spanking to avoid abuse…

    or gun control because of idiots, jerks, criminals…

    Laws will not stop those who couldn’t care less about keeping laws.

    The bad guys, the abusers will find a way to continue their illegal actions to get what they want regardless of what the law says.

  36. We ARE on the same page. I agree wholeheartedly. The Lord gave us the ability, and the freedom, to make our own choices-be they right or wrong. I don’t think Walmart should try to step in where the Lord clearly didn’t see fit to! Besides, who can know? Perhaps those people returning “charity” gifts do need something more- infant formula or diapers, perhaps? This is the same mentality I take with giving money to homeless people. Yes, I could be self righteous and give food giftcards, but guess what? He or she could sell them and still take the money and buy beer! That person’s choice makes them accountable to GOD- not me. I need to do as my conscience, directed by the Holy Spirit guides me. I am not responsible for the choices of other adults. I think if the charities had problems with the way gifts were being handled (or returned) they need to take up with their clients. It isn’t Walmart’s job to be Big Brother- they need to focus on their true purpose-selling! Maybe if they chose not to sell beer and cigarettes, they wouldn’t have to worry…

  37. Amen sister. Well said.

  38. High Five!!!!!!!!!!!

    Thank you for this two-parter. It was much needed!

    Happy New Year!

  39. Connie – A-MEN!!!

    Chick Hatchers – Well said…

  40. Kim Bowlin says:

    Just adding my “AMEN, SISTER” to the list above!

  41. Problem solved…do not shop at Wal-Mart. I have not shopped there for 5 years or more. They are not the morality police. If you disagree with their policies you have the choice to not give them your business. Stand by your morals and boycott them.

  42. RON PAUL 2012!!!!!!!!!!

    I had a fun experience at Walmart a few weeks ago myself. My two sons ended up with two copies of the same new book (the new Aragon dragon book). So I returned the unread copy that I had personally bought for my younger son. I had the receipt, the book was in perfect shape & had clearly not been opened. It took me about 2 weeks to schedule the time necessary to brave the Walmart return line. When I finally made it to the front of the line, the Walmart associate informed me that the return period had expired on the book. I asked what the return period was & she told me 24 hours! She said that had been the policy for the last nine years! I read the return policy posted on the wall behind her out loud to her – there was no mention of a 24 hour limit on books. She told me the policy was posted online. I told her that I did not buy the book online, I bought it in the store, so there was no reason for me to check the policy online. At that point, I asked to see the store manager, and she decided that she could make an exception for me. I told her that I would be careful in the future not to buy any more books at Walmart, so as to avoid any repeat of this situation. She responded to me, “OK”.

  43. PS – I’m sorry, I know that wasn’t really your point. Just don’t get me started on Walmart.

  44. its kind of crazy that people can’t just trust others… obviously people do things that others dont always approve of. i know i do plenty of things that people i know dont like or agree with. however, i agree that creating a law is not right. while i wish we could protect children, but, like someone earlier said, sometimes the parents arent buying beer and cigaretted, but rather food for their kids… isn’t it more important to keep them fed and alive in ratty clothes than dressed nicely and starved to death?

  45. I agree, except in this case it isn’t a law. WalMart can’t force people to be good parents, but if they see a rush of people coming in with children’s toys and exchanging them for beer and cigarrettes, it’s sort of their deal. I’ve always thought their optional receipt return policy was pretty generous.

    What a private corporation decides to do isn’t the same as making a law about it.

    • I agree with you as well. I understand her point was about the popularity of “morality police” mentality around us, but it had nothing to do with the government–and I do wish that was made clearer. Part of individual liberty is having the right to give our business to who we choose to see fit. I personally no longer shop at at Walmart since they have too many unethical and unfair practices that does not give other business a fair edge in competition–so therefore they don’t get my business.

      I also notice Christians (and I’m one myself) try to have liberties taken away for things borderline immoral/inappropriate, but still want to have their own preferences available. In a our capitalist society, often the most effective way to eliminate those is simply to not create a demand for that product/service. Block certain channels on tv so they don’t count towards viewing time, don’t purchase certain magazines, etc. If enough people did so, businesses wouldn’t have a need to keep creating that product/service. Often trying to create boycotts backfires since it just generates free advertising for the company (and they love that!) and creates an interest in something most people wouldn’t otherwise know about. I hate to break it to folks but often Christians are a part of the problem, not the solution (i.e. several statistics show at least 80% of men have seen pornography at least once for example). Rather than getting upset at our society, perhaps it’s time to start living out our beliefs.

  46. Totally agree!!

    The reason why people want more legislation is because they want SOMEONE else to “fix things” once-and-for-all.

    That is the problem. We shouldn’t be “waiting for superman”. People need to rise up and be responsible and look out for each other instead of expecting ‘the state’ to take care of things they can, and should do, themselves.

    That means that I need to choose to be accountable personally and then look for ways to truly care for those around me, like you did with the little girl. Invite others into our home, be friendly, speak up when the truth needs to be said, and not be afraid to lend a hand when we see a need.

  47. I started reading the comments and decided there were too many for the time I have. So, I’m sure I’m repeating other people.

    I whole-heartedly agree with you. And I’m glad you wrote this.