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4 Moms Answer Reader Questions

It is time, once again, for another episode of "Whatcha Wanna Know?"

Each of the 4 Moms is choosing a few reader questions and providing our best answers for those.

Here are the questions I have chosen today:

Do you have a vehicle big enough to fit your whole family? Is it a necessity with a family that big or is it feasible to sometimes just take 2 vehicles when you need to?

We bought a used Suburban for our family car when we were expecting our fifth child, and that vehicle transported us comfortably until I was heavily pregnant with our seventh. We knew that, when our new baby came along, all of us together wouldn't be able to go anywhere  in that Suburban. Since we like going places together, we decided to trade in the Suburban and purchase a used 15 passenger van, which was surprisingly inexpensive, as far as vehicles go.

It turns out they aren't that high in demand in terms of cool cars. Who knew?

How many kids do you have in each bedroom?

We have 3 girls in one bedroom, 3 girls in the sunroom-turned-bedroom, 1 boy in his own room, and the baby in our room. We would like to build on to our 3 bedroom house to make 2 more bedrooms and another bathroom, but we are waiting until we find a bag of money on the side of the road to begin that project.

What are your older kids thinking about college?

Our oldest is thinking that unless we find another bag of money on the side of the road, she had better plan on getting a scholarship or working her way through her tuition just like her mama did back in the 1980's.

Oh. Wait.

That is actually what I am thinking about college.

She is actually thinking she can take dual credit courses and test out of enough classes to graduate from high school as a college sophomore, and then she will take a year off to work and save money to pay for a local state college education, while living at home.

This is all new ground for us, though, so I would LOVE advice in this area if you have experience!

How do you handle the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny, and Santa Claus?

We let our kids in on the gag from the get go. We all have fun pretending they are real, but we make no secret of the fact that it is really Mommy and Daddy who give you the goods.

We tell them that some parents like to surprise their kids and not tell them the real deal until they are older, but you had better keep your kids away from ours in a couple of weeks if they don't know, because loose lips run in our family.

Would you like to see more of my reader questions answered?

What is your naptime routine like?

What do you do about rough housing in the house?

What do you do about unmotivated learners?

How do you prepare your household for the birth of a new baby?

Now, be sure to check out how the rest of The 4 Moms answer their reader questions:

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  1. I think your oldest is right on!
    As a bit of advice from someone that took a very, very similar route, I would offer encouragement to take gen ed course first. I was duel enrolled as a high school student (really “triple enrolled” because I was taking classes as my high school, the local community college, and the state college that I planned to attend after graduation). My districts only rules for dual enrollment were that I had to have a particular score on a state standardized test (which I did) and the college courses I took had to be courses that weren’t already offered at my high school (which was never an issue).
    I thought for SURE at 16/17 that I knew what I wanted to be/major in so I ended up taking all of my duel enrollment courses in my specific major–no gen eds. My plan, for after high school was to take a mixture of classes in my major and gen eds until graduation. This is what I did for the first two years after high school.

    My duel-enrollment classes were, of course, free (paid by the school district) and I had several academic scholarships as well (My parents had always told me that would do everything they could to help me pay for my bachelors, but since we were not a rich family that it was important for me to study hard and apply for all of the scholarships that they could).

    My first two years, everything went according to plan, but sophomore year, (half way through) I suddenly realized that I really, really, did not want to peruse the career that I’d majored in (which was a huge deal, since I’d been planning my major and future career since I was 10!) I really started freaking out since the majority of my credits were specific to my major and most of my scholarship money had been used up. I changed my major about 5 times that semester and took as many gen eds as I could, but come summer I still wasn’t sure what I wanted.
    My parents told me they were planning to take out a loan to cover the rest of my education, and while I firmly believe that education IS one of the only things worth going into debt for, I didn’t want them to in this case since I had no idea what I wanted to study (not that college is or should be a trade school either of course…)
    I ended up taking a year off and working (which turned into 2 years because I got married during that time and the planning, etc. took a good chunk of time and money) and then going back to the local community college to finish up on the gen eds required for a BA (Thanks to Pell grants, state funding, and a little help from my mom and dad–who did not need to take out loans–I was able to do this debt free too!) It was during that time that I found something that I was truly passionate about, and now, almost 10 years later, I am finally getting ready to finish up my bachelors (while working full time).
    I have been really, really, lucky that I have never had to take out student loans (but I do plan to for my masters if needed) but my degree will still have taken me over a decade to complete when all is said and done. If I had taken gen eds while in high school and during my early college years and used that time to figure out what it was that I truly wanted to study (people do change so much during the teen-twenties transition years!) I would have finished my BS (did I mention that after finishing up all of my BA requirements I realized that the degree I felt most passionate about pursuing was a BS?) and would probably be working on my masters right now.
    I love my life, and love my journey, but ultimately it would have made it so much easier if I had waited to dive into major requirements AFTER most of my gen eds had been completed.

  2. Elizabeth says:

    A bag of money huh? Are those common down there because I may have to take a trip. :) As far as college those are the same lines we were thinking along. Keep us updated!

  3. Connie, back in the early 2000’s , I was able to do a program here in Washington State called “Running Start.” Basically, I did what your daughter is hoping too, by taking courses at the community college; some acting as dual credit toward my high school graduation requirements, and the rest going toward my AAS. It was A LOT of work, basically 4 years worth of school in two……but learning at the community college was a much better fit for me than in a high school, and we even had some home schoolers in the program :) It was definitely worth it. I finally finished my B.S, and thank God for having made this program available to me ( and providing the friend who inspired me to actually use it to get the 2 year degree) because it made finishing this degree that much less of a financial burden. So, I really think that is a wonderful idea that your daughter has :) I have no idea how your state differs, but here, homeschool students are allowed to utilize whatever public school resources they would like, and there may be a program like this ( which wouldn’t really require her to go to the public school). The best friend who inspired me to make the most of the opportunity had actually been a homeschool kid, and her mom placed her in public school just long enough to make her eligible.

    • on a quick note, I agree with Kathryn. It was VERY important that I got a very basic, intended for transfer, Associated degree, because it allowed me to totally change course; what I thought I wanted to do at 16 was radically different than why I wanted the degree a few years ( and a few babies) later :) Getting that basis AAS meant that I was able to transfer and have the degree count as all of my general ed., humanities, etc. All ( ha!) I had to do then was finish degree specific work :)

  4. After she takes all of the dual credit she can, she should consider finishing up her sophmore year at community college. The classes are way cheap – $100 a class or so and they transfer. Students that can pull a 4.0 can usually get great transfer scholarships to the 4 year colleges in the area – not just the state schools either.

    • Oops! I *did* go to college, but obviously didn’t learn to spell! Hehe. The word I *meant* to type was “necessary”. 😉

  5. Smockity, your eldest sounds wise beyond her years. Some debt is good, some not, for some people, and some not. It sounds like your eldest knows where she already fits on on this spectrum. This is a very nice thing to know about one’s self early on in life.

    I also want to address Allie’s comment above.

    Allie, very few things are really necessary in this life.

    So, yes, college is not necessary. For anyone. Either a boy or a girl.

    But neither is cooking your food before you eat it. I don’t see many humans running around eating raw meat and raw sweet potatoes. We can actually live as human beings without cooking any food ever in our whole lives. But it would be harder to live that way. And thus now cooking food has become accepted as “necessary.”

    Educational degrees are rewards for extremely hard work and demonstration of intense focus over an extended period of time. This is what college teaches people. That you must work for what you want, you must plan and think and decide what you want to do, or you have wasted something you can’t get back. That you do not get something for nothing.

    But it sounds like Smockity’s eldest already knows this. Considering this whole conversation is about Smockity’s eldest not getting something for nothing.


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