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Fruit of the Spirit Chart ~ Practicing Love

My friends and I are sharing again how you can "Put Your House in Order" in the following areas:

  • Finances
  • Food
  • Faith
  • Children
  • Decorating

Since I have eight of the little rascals, I have assigned myself as the authority on children.

I am going to show you today how you can encourage your children to practice loving one another with this Fruit of the Spirit chart.


That's right! We can actually practice  each of the fruits of the Spirit - love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control.

I found this printable fruit template and made one for each child. I then wrote each of the nine fruits in a circle. I talked with the children about what each of the fruits would look like in our daily lives, and we came up with examples of what each one might look like.

"If Katherine said, 'Wait for me! I have to tie my shoes!' and I smiled and said, 'Okay, I don't mind waiting.' What fruit would I be showing?"

"Patience!" they all called out.

Then, I gave each child a page of foil star stickers. I told them they were to use the gold stars on their own charts whenever they demonstrated any of the fruits of the Spirit.

The other colors were to be put on anyone else's chart who they saw demonstrating any of the fruits of the Spirit.

Finally, I announced that when all the stickers are gone, the whole family is going out for ice cream!

You have never seen so much love and kindness being shown in one family! I believe we may be repeating this activity every month!

Go ahead and try it yourself and let me know how it turns out.

Now, be sure to visit my each of my friends, who will help you put your house in order.

Making Family Rules Fun from My Blessed Life

Loving Your Family Through Meal Planning from Good Cheap Eats

Facebook and Inappropriate Relationships from Women Living Well

Family Finances from Kingdom First Mom

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  1. Great idea going to give this a try. my oldest is really picking on her brother recently. Thanks for the idea!

  2. Love these ideas — I need these practical tips! At our house we always have one good habit and one godly trait (usually a fruit of the Spirit) that we are focusing on – right now it’s “Put things where they belong” for a habit and “Self Control” for the godly trait.

    Somehow though the trait gets rotated regularly but I think the good habit is going to stay the same until the kids all grow up and move out!!! :)

  3. Cute! I think this is just what my jellybeans need. Great idea!

  4. Wow! What an amazingly practical tool to remind our children to be aware of how they are living! I love this!!! Great post Connie!!!!
    Much Love,

  5. That’s a fabulous idea! I think we’re in need of some more fruitiness at this point in the schoolyear…me included! 😉

  6. I can see that this would be very effective with kiddos! :)

    I have hesitated on behavior charts only because they seem to ignore the heart issues, and focus on outward behavior. The Fruit of the Spirit cannot be produced by trying harder to be patient, loving, joyful, etc.; it can only be produced by Jesus doing the work in and through us. To make it “external” seems to be a bit performance-based?

    How do you avoid this?

    Thanks for the post,

    • Smockity Frocks says:

      Karen, Do you mean that only Christians can become more patient, loving, kind, etc? I know some very patient non-Christians.

      2 Peter 1:5-8 tells us to “make every EFFORT” to “possess these qualities in INCREASING MEASURE”. I believe we must practice these things and the Holy Spirit is our helper.

      As for being performance based, we use behaviour charts sparingly, and only when I see a need to focus on certain issues, for the very reason you stated. We talk frequently about the motivation that should be behind the performance.

      Thanks for the question!

    • Karen how do you think that it doesn’t have to do with the heart? If a child demonstrates the fruits of the Spirit on themselves as well as others how will the heart feel? If he dosn’t demonstrate these how will it feel? If the heart has love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control it will show the love for Jesus.

  7. Reminds me of the cross-country car trip my mom, sister and I took with my aunt and 3 boy cousins. Mom decided we should each draw a name at the beginning of the trip. Keeping the name a secret, we were to be kind, solicitous, generous, and so on to the person whose name we drew. We would re-draw names at each rest stop. I generously offered to write the names on pieces of paper to go into the paper bag. It took 4 rest stops before one of the cousins realized they were all being extra super nice to ME.

    I think your system is a lot better. Now that I’m a mom, that is. :-)


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