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I Am a Failure

A loser. A sinner.

I can't keep my house clean. I can't keep my kids from bickering. My dinner was a tasteless disaster. I snapped at my husband. I yelled at my kids.

Is anyone still with me?

I hate those days when it seems like I can't do a single thing right.

It is during these times, though, that I feel the deepest need for the cross of Christ and the redemption therein.

It is then that I am sure I absolutely can not do this thingcalled life on my own power. I need something greater than myself. I need strength. I need forgiveness.

It is then that I can feel mercy at its deepest level. In turn, I can feel mercy more deeply when I look at others who make a royal mess of things.

Thanks to our loving God for his plan of redemption! I do not have to be perfect to be loved, to be saved!

21So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22For in my inner being I delight in God's law; 23but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. 24What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? 25Thanks be to God—through Jesus Christ our Lord! (Romans 7)

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  1. Totally been there! (((HUGS)))

  2. You are speaking all of our language, at one time or another. The Lord gave me this love for sunsets at a time like this in my life. He spoke to my heart and said, “It is the close of a day and a chance to do it better tomorrow than you did today.” I have loved sunsets, even more, ever since. I also feel the same way about Mondays. Most people hate them, but to me they are the chance to be a better wife, mother, friend, teacher, cook, cleaner, daughter, servant, etc. than I was last week. Be encouraged because “Greater is He that is in us, than he who is in the world.” Thanks for sharing and being honest and encouraging those that the enemy would convince that they are the only person in the world that feels that way.

  3. I am SO with you!!
    And I SO love you… but not as much as HE does. :)

    Hang in there. We are all broken. They key is knowing that. And seeking Him.

  4. SO feel ya on this! Especially right now I’m really not a nice person to live with. I am 5 days from my due date with baby #3, dealing with a pelvic injury and a sick toddler and still fighting the morning sickness in addition to the usual pregnancy stuff so I feel like all I do is snap and yell and cry and then ask forgiveness… from God and my poor family. If it weren’t for grace I think I’d be so depressed I might not want to keep trying sometimes.

  5. butterfly 4 JESUS says:

    Story of my life…., I am in a season right now where I feel like I have more days like this then not, I am ready for a new season!!!! So blessed to hear that I am not the only one with days like this. Thanks for sharing.

  6. That’s it in a nutshell…..We are wretched, but – BUT – He is altogether lovely. What a Saviour we have.
    Love, Anne x

  7. Thank you for posting this, Connie. The constant feeling of failure is overwhelming me right now. Sometimes it feels as if I’m the only one floundering around. And you’re right, it is in these times that He comforts me with His mercy and love.

  8. This exact feeling is what woke me up early this morning.

  9. I know that feeling all too well! But you’re right; it is in our weakness that God’s strength shines through.

  10. Yes, yes and yes!! I feel like a failure many days and wonder why God doesn’t just give up on me, but he doesn’t. He teaches such a beautiful lesson on patience, unconditional love, and forgiveness. His grace is abundant and I try to focus on that when I’m at the end of my rope and thinking I CAN TAKE NO MORE! Hugs to you my friend:)

  11. Wow. It’s like you are inside my brain, this was my day yesterday (and way too many other days in fact) Thanks for posting, I’ll be linking back to this from my blog!


  12. God’s timing is wonderful! Last week was quite a challenge (and really it was just the usual stuff!) and by Saturday I was a big emotional mess! After a good cry, a talk with hubby, and a day at church, I feel better… and your post today is like a balm to my soul, reminding me that all moms go through this and reminding me that I’m not doing this alone: God wants to help us, if we will just let him!! Thank you! :)

  13. Katena Dyser says:

    I totally understand and wanted to thank you. You made my day awesome when today is a good day. I want ot borrow these scripture for a paper I’m working on thanks again and have a blessed day

  14. We are all human, but praise the Lord we are saved by grace! :) So sorry you had a bad day though! Hope you get a chance to regroup and relax!! :)

  15. I have come to learn that everyday is a “His grace is sufficient for me” day.♥♥♥

  16. I have these days more and more. Seems no one likes what I do or they just don’t care. You spoke right to me and made me cry. I want peace with my family and kids. I want them to get along. I want to be happy when they come home from school or work. He is my peace. I feel this warmth over me right now. Thank you so much for posting this.

    God Bless you and your family

  17. Hi Connie, I am an ex-homeschool, now public-school mom of 5 (and a grown stepson). I found your site through $5 dinners.

    As weird as it may sound, I am blessed to share my shortcomings with others, too. For 2 reasons:
    1. It shows how amazing God is – that He can use even ME!
    2. I really want to help younger moms out by showing them we all struggle, so they can see hope.

    Please check out the following blog posts (www.ourwayswithourkids.blogspot.com) to see how amazing our God is!
    1. “I am lame. Therefore I bring glory to God.” http://tiny.cc/w8748
    2. “Homeschooling at our house” http://tiny.cc/ifqtl

    Thank you for sharing your life,
    lisa (in texas)

  18. I have a hard time letting go of my daily failures. I have a hard time accepting God’s grace and mercy over the junk of my day. I lay in bed at night and berate myself for speaking harshly, leaving the kitchen a mess, eating out and wasting money, etc.

    It’s exhausting.

    Love the verses you included. And I loved what you said about how we don’t have to be perfect to be loved or saved. Whew!

    • @Sarah, Sweet mommy, the only one who wants you to continue to feel defeated and rotten is satan, and he is the enemy!
      When we know flat-out we’ve failed throughout the day, we should feel bad, guilty…but we are NOT to hang on to it. We confess it to the Lord, He is so ready to forgive us (and to change us!).
      All we can do other than that is to go to our family members and say, “I messed up. And I am sorry.”

      And try life all over again the next day!

      Here is a BEAUTIFUL verse ~
      “God is in the midst of her (even when she’s blowing it!)…God will help her when morning dawns (so she can start anew!).” Psalm 46:5 (FYI – yes, it even really says “her” in the Scripture!)

      :)day, lisa

  19. Needed this today! Thanks!!