This week the 4 Moms are discussing how each of us manages to spend time with our husbands while sticking to a tight budget.
And by that, I don't mean how each of us spends time with all of the 4 Moms' husbands, because that would be... weird.
And I don't mean how each of us spends time with our multiple husbands, because that would be... illegal.
What I mean is that we are discussing how each of one of us manages to spend time with HER OWN husband.
Sheesh! I wish you people would stay on topic here!
So, anyway, here's the deal. I have a lot of people living in my house. A lot of people who want my attention. My husband also wants my attention and it so happens that I enjoy having his attention as well.
Because of the people I mentioned above, we have to purpose to make time to spend together. And since the money tree in our backyard isn't in bloom right now, we can't break the bank doing it.
Here are some of the things we do to have uninterrupted time together without spending a lot of money:
- Now that we have a couple of teenagers who can keep an eye on the littles if we aren't there, my husband and I will sometimes run out the door together and make a trip to the bank or the post office a miniature date. When you have this many kids, you learn to multi-task.
- After the children have gone to bed, we watch a movie together or go over dreams and plans for some project we are working on or just talk about our day.
- Occasionally, we take advantage of my husband's work related dinners to have a date night. Again our big kids babysit.
- When our kids were younger, we took advantage of generous offers for free babysitting from friends. These opportunities were rare, but we never said "no" if someone offered. Once, the friendly teller at our small town bank commented on how adorable and well behaved our kids were and said she wouldn't mind babysitting if we ever wanted to have a dinner date one night. I was just about to politely decline when my husband interrupted me to say, "That would be GREAT! How about Friday night?!" I believe she was just as surprised as I was, but she showed up at our house promptly on Friday night and we went out to dinner and thoroughly enjoyed it!
- We have gone to the library or book stores to sit and read together.
- When we only had young children they all had a very strict 8:30 bedtime. This left at least an hour every evening before we collapsed when we could talk together, watch a movie, make plans for the future, etc.
- Going for a walk around the block while the kids watch a short video is something else we have done to sneak in some uninterrupted discussion time.
- This past summer, I came to be in possession of a restaurant gift card, and I am only slightly embarrassed to tell you that we dropped our kids off at VBS and headed straight to the restaurant without looking back. We enjoyed our free dinner alone and only lightly heckled the other couple from church we saw who had done the same thing.
- Our church has a babysitting co-op where couples take turns babysitting while the others get a date night. We do not participate because our teenagers are capable babysitters, but this would be a good option for people with only young children.
I think spending time with your husband is important, but I don't think this has to be done in any elaborate or expensive way. I happen to personally know that a happily married couple can go for months at a time without having a date night except for the kind that happens on the living room couch, planning the next week's fishing trip, after the kids have been tucked into bed.
At this point in our parenting journey we do not go on overnight trips together without our children like many of our friends do. Although, I think this sounds like it would be a refreshing and wonderful time to spend together, it is not a necessity. I will not perish or suffer any harm if I never get to do this until all my children are grown.
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